Although I have a few charities that I am most connected to my first choice will always be Amen. They do wonderful work in the effort to help men of domestic violence something that isnt heard of now of days mens rights has fallen away in these cases and as much as we like to turn a blind eye.
I want to supply you with a few break downs on Male Victims
- Male Victims come from all walks of life, social backgrounds and cultures.
- Male Victims suffer society's stigma for not protecting themselves.
- Male Victims become depressed in their isolation, feel suicidal and sometimes take their own lives without disclosure.
- Male Victims are victimized because they fail to conform to the Macho man stereotype.
- Male Victims are perceived as wimps.
- Male Victims are disbelieved because they are men.
- Male Victims are refused the status of victim.
- Male Victims are caring, sensitive men, good fathers and providers. They want help for the abuser not further abuse from society and the caring agencies.
- Male Victims are removed from or asked to leave their homes because it is the easy option.
- Male Victims have no support systems in place. They have no "listening ear".
Fighting the Myths
Modern medicine is aware of certain conditions which may cause people to be violent but we expect such sufferers to seek help or medical treatment. Men are expected to take responsibility for violence and abuse but no excuses are accepted. Yet when a female is violent society provides a list of excuses: Post-natal depression, stress, PMT, eating disorders, personality disorders, menopause, addictions, childhood traumas, provocation, self-defense etc. Although most men will be sensitive to these problems, they should not have to suffer violence as a consequence.
When a woman is violent and abusive in a relationship, it is not necessarily assumed that she is a bad mother. If a man is violent towards his partner, it is automatically assumed that he is an unfit parent. The law presumes that the children are almost always better off with their mother. Consequently the only options for men seem to be to put up with the abuse or to leave the home, since under the law there is no real protection for them.
The Goal is If a male victim seeks help, society should offer the same protection and help to him and his children as is given to female victims. Women should be judged by the same standards as men, and women who are violent should be held legally responsible for their actions.
I personally got involved after finding this charity because there I am finding more recently that Men are Oppressed in many ways - If you do research Feminism true feminism is about Equality not dominance in rights and any body with compassion for children can realize that this is something that needs to be looked at. Lets Make a Donation of $250.00 and make a change for men who by society standards are shunned for speak up!
Get educated there website is
www.amen.ie
