I went through a similar problem(not with ebay), so let me just say this. The money is lost and, assuming you didnt get the item back yet, the guy probably scammed you and the box has something different in it. What you can do next time to prevent this is follow these steps. State that you do not allow refunds as item is sent as pictured. Ask your shipping company to make a record that the item is indeed there and what the weight is for dispute purposes, and do this again on return before it can even leave the facility(may need to call). Do not remove funds until you confirm under ebays/paypals eyes with him that he has recieved the item.
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